Open the morning news paper and your eyes get stuck on students suicide after exam results are out and during examination. Reason ? Stress. Did the stress never existed when out fathers or fore fathers studied or it has crept in now ? Stress always existed. Name any person in this whole world who never experienced stress in his life time. Stress is part and parcel of life. We need to deal with it and need to teach our children how to deal with it or lose our child to stress.
Very easy options are available to students. They commit suicide and end life forgetting about their parents, siblings and loved ones. They end their life, their parents expectations and leave behind trails or sorrows and miseries for parents which is really hard to overcome. Students take the harsh step of suicide because they find it difficult to cope up with their present circumstances and because their parents expectations belittle them.
We as parents sometimes underestimate what our child is going through. In this fast paced life where there is extra burden on the head of the family regarding day to day expenses. It gets difficult for them to give time to kids. But moms or elders staying at home can listen to them and lend their shoulders when needed. Children needs support, care, love and their own space. If we intrude in their personal life too often they feel insecure and stop sharing their life with us. We need to understand their feelings.
Suicides cannot be stopped by the police department by guarding lakes or buildings but we the parents can really bring down the rate and help our child ride over troubled circumstances and be with them. Every child is different so there is no single formula to correct them. One thing which works for one child may not work for the other. We as parents or guardian need to take care. Do not over burden your own child with everyone's expectations. Let them live.
It is very heart breaking to hear that a child commits suicide at home during exams just because of studies pressure. I would request each and every parent not to pressurize their child. Instead talk to them what is right and wrong. Talk to them about their goals, their future planning, future course of action, where they want to see themselves 5 or 10 years down the line. Do not mock at them or criticize them if their list does not matches with your (parents) expectations.
It is 21st century and everyone has freedom to chose his or her own field of study and life's goal.
Come let us change our thinking and get broad minded so that our child's news does not makes suicide headlines.